Finding mentorship should be a part of every couple's to-do-list, especially during the first years of marriage. Having a mentor in the early stages of marriage can prevent a disagreement from snowballing into an avalanche.

As natural analyzers, it is easy to compare marriage to a project or look at it as a problem we ought to solve. Many couples go into marriage with this perspective and struggle because naturally, the expectation when working on a project or a problem is an end date.

We forget that even Jesus asked that the cup pass him. He faced so much persecution, rejection, and ultimately isolation from the same people who swore to always be there for me. He had a "situation" similar to what many of us are secretly dealing with.

Yet as I prayed tonight before bed, the Holy Spirit reminded me of John 1:47, where Nathanael questioned Philip after being told, the one the prophets and Moses had written about was found. His name, Jesus, the son of Joseph from Nazareth.